Growing up adopted there was always a couple days a year that stirred mixed emotions in me, my birthday and Mother's Day. Though they were celebratory days they were always accompanied with feelings of loss and sadness. Since its inception in 2000, National Adoption Day has been added to my list of mixed bag days.
I volunteered for a year for an organization that helped start this day of awareness and was able to witness hundreds of adoptions finalized at Los Angeles Edmund D Edelman Children's Court. It was a celebratory day, children dressed in Sunday best. Baloons and cookies were passed out and tears of joy were shed. Adoption day is good. It is the beginning of second chances for many children.
I find comfort in that. I imagine for me Adoption Day will always stir up memories of loss and I am at peace with that. For I have found that my troubled adoption story continues to play out through out my adulthood and that is for the better, because through that I am finding strength and courage to support other adult adoptees and to help and encourage adoptive families today in order to have the healthiest outcomes for all three parties of the adoption triad.
A couple of days ago I came across a disk my adoptive mother had sent me a couple years back. It was labeled, Timberlie Ages 0-5. There was only a handful of scanned pictures, but my heart lept when I saw the uncanny resemblence to my two-year old son. Not knowing who my father is there has always been missing pieces, looking at these photos felt like I had found another piece to my puzzle. After DNA testing this past Spring I learned that I am Irish, seeing my Leo with the same Strawberry blonde hair of my childhood reminds me I do have a heritage that is living on and I don't have to have all the answers to celebrate who I am.
Happy Adoption Day to all my adoptive family friends, blessings to you and prayers of comfort to any adoptees who might be having a mixed bag day too.
Timberlie Rene - (I have no clue why the image won't go vertical - just tilt your head :)